
I would like to post an update to My Lesson In Frustration as I "interviewed and hired" a new cardiologist yesterday! It was my first visit with him and I couldn't be happier. The whole office was pleasant and the first thing I noticed as I checked in and sat down was that every patient exiting after their appointment was smiling! Yes, smiling! What a concept! Patients actually leaving positive and in a happy mood with thoughts of living another day. This was the first sign to me that I may be on the right track to finding an understanding and positive minded cardiologist. At my previous cardiologist office every patient (including myself) would leave the office stumbling out with blank stares and thoughts of doom (this is not an exaggeration!)
Please, if you have health care providers that you are not happy with, change them! After all, they are your health care team and
work for you. (You pay them on a regular basis for your care don't you? I know my doctors have never paid ME to go see them!)You can fire them if you're not happy! Do your research when seeking a new one. I looked up the Top Docs of San Diego, found one I had heard good things about when I had been working and did research on him. It paid off. If you're not able to research a new doctor yourself ask a friend or relative for help. You are important and so is your well being!
A Happy And Healthy New Year To Everyone!
Here is my previous post in case you missed it:Those of you who read my blog on a regular basis know that I do not use this space as a forum for my health care issues. I have posted regarding my heart attack, stent, and recipes geared towards healthy eating and diabetes, but I do not like to dwell on the topic, as I strive to live each day in the healthiest and most positive way I can. However, today I am going to do just that so that I may not only vent after my cardiology appt. yesterday, but hopefully inspire someone else who may be reading this to "fire" any health care worker who does not only have your physical, but your mental well being in mind as they join in guiding you on the road to wellness. After all, we hire them to join us in our quest for living and being as healthy as we can while doing it, we can fire them when they are not living up to their end. Health care workers are in our employ, and we need to remember that and not allow "Dr. Bullying," which is what I have experienced at every cardiac visit I have gone to.
Since my cardiac crisis in February of 2009, I have made many changes in my life. I have lost over 40 lbs, changed the way I eat, taken as many stress related issues as I can out of my life, lowered my glucose to the normal readings and removed my risk for diabetes at this time, etc. I am also trained in health care and my wellness beliefs and training lie in both the Eastern and Western medicine arenas, as well as clinical herbalism. As you can see, I am not a "medical virgin" as it were, so I have been very proactive in making sure I do everything I can to live as long as I can. It is my belief that this has annoyed my cardiologist to no end. His negative remarks at every visit have surprised me, and I have never once received a positive comment from him. Please note, I am not one who needs to be coddled or have positive inspirational quotes thrown at me at every visit. I am human however, and I do need to hear that what I am doing is making a difference in my survival instead of being made to feel that I need to pick out a casket upon leaving every office visit. If I did not have the knowledge I have, I could have easily given up by now and have been made to feel depressed and without hope.
I am over having this very negative minded cardiologist. The sad fact is I'm not sure he's able to utter kind words in any situation, let alone to his patients. Today I am firing him and I'm on a quest for a new health care partner. I have worked with Dr's like him in the past so I had somehow been able to summon up the strength to tolerate his bedside manner until yesterday. When I first started seeing him he stated to me that he is not used to seeing his patients survive, but seeing them for follow ups in the hospital after more cardiac events. This should have sent up a red flag. I would like to mention I kept him on as my cardiologist because he is the Dr. who saved my life and inserted the stent. He was also the Chief Of Staff at the hospital and being the researcher that I am, I found he was very well qualified and good at what he does. What he is not good at is linking the physical to the mental.
If you have a Dr. like this in your "employ" please take charge and seek new medical counsel. Please know that your mental well being is as important in overcoming health issues as your physical treatments. Be proactive in recognizing what works for you and what doesn't and know that for every Dr. that does not join you in your quest for wellness, there is one out there who will.
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. That's my belief and I'm sticking to it!! Here's to a stronger and more positive day for us all...